Archive - Not Therapy

You want them to go out. You’re also worried.

Making room for fun while there’s still plenty to figure out.

Sep 15

Can’t they, or won’t they?

The blurry line between mental illness and a lack of willingness and what to do either way (from not-a-therapist).

Sep 9

Should I be worried that they're still living at home?

What the numbers say and what to ask instead of the timeline question.

Sep 1

August 2026

Psst… What about your other kid?

Four patterns I see in siblings and three things you can do this week.

Aug 26

Stop telling your kid to get a job (do these 5 things instead)

The Yale study that finally proved what we've been telling parents for years.

Aug 15 • Hayley Caddes

I'm so over the term "failure to launch."

The Japanese call it Hikikomori. I decided on a new name instead.

Aug 7 • Hayley Caddes

July 2026

Am I a bad parent for charging my kid rent?

How to move your young adult toward independence, out of your house, and off your payroll. A step-by-step guide for parents at different starting…

Jul 31 • Hayley Caddes

The thing an AI chatbot can't give your kid (and who can)

Part 2. It's almost never another diagnosis, another program, or a better app. Here's what the Harvard research points to.

Jul 24 • Hayley Caddes

My kid would rather talk to AI than to me

Part 1. Why the thing you want to take away is the clearest map to what your young adult needs.

Jul 17 • Hayley Caddes

Real parent questions, answered!

A 21-year-old who can't stand the word "mentor," a 41-year-old who can't manage money, and what we'd actually do about each.

Jul 9 • Hayley Caddes

June 2026

But how do I actually help my young adult find a mentor??

It's more hands-off than you think.

Jun 30 • Hayley Caddes

What Jonathan Haidt isn't telling you about your stuck 21-year-old

Great to know about how we got here, but what are parents supposed to do now?

Jun 24 • Hayley Caddes

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